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Unplug Your Holiday Machine
by Gwynne Spencer
Are you dreading the holiday season because your kids get the Gimmes? Do you
fantasize about cutting the plug off your TV from Thanksgiving to New Year?
Here are some ideas adapted from the perennially popular "Unplug the
Christmas Machine: A Complete Guide to Putting Love and Joy Back Into The
Season" by Jo Robinson and Jean Staeheli ($10, Quill) now in its 13th
printing, and still one of the best guides to decommercializing your family
- Make an activity calendar with one non-shopping activity per day.
There are plenty of possibilities--everything from decorating windows to
making tree ornaments to working on family photo albums. Brainstorming the
list with kids is always a great way to start to unplug your holiday machine.
- Limit TV watching. Most kids watch 10,000 commercials a year during
their twenty hours a week of tube-feeding. Disconnecting them may produce
howls of agony, but think of it as a holiday "detox".
- Read out loud at least once a day. Build a family holiday library
with one new title each year and keep the collection in your turkey roaster.
If you think you don't have TIME to read here are some sneaky ways to make
moments : Read during commercials (especially commercials for toys). Read
while you wait in the car. Read to kids in the bathtub. Listen to books on
tape in the car.
- If you are really brave, make a rule that "If You See It On TV There
is No Way I Will Buy It For You" This will solve 99% of the craziness that
accumulates during this frenzied time when most retailers gross 50% of their
- Come up with new traditions or stick to the ones you have. In this
terror-filled world where you can hardly count on the sun rising in the east,
kids need to know that some things just won't change. If you ALWAYS watch the
Wizard of Oz, in spite of howls of protest, DO it this year.
- Teach kids how to give. Find a local charity that kids can wrap and
deliver gifts to and then DO it.. Help them form a concept of charity that
will last all year. Take them with you when you go to donate blood. Have them
make gift baskets for children less fortunate than they are. Making it as
easy to give as it is to receive.
- Take lots of walks, take time to appreciate sunsets and snowfalls,
wonderful songbirds and life all around. The zoo is a great field trip this
time of the year if you bundle up and go late in the afternoon. It's hard to
teach kids the preciousness of life all around if they're parked in front of
the tube or umbilically attached to the cd-player. Get OUT of the house and
INTO the world.
- Write down the marvelous things that happen this year, celebrate the
goodness all around, toast the holiday spirit of love and joy and hope for
peace. Then, next year's unplugging efforts will have a set of notes to get
- Getting your holidays back to being special and sacred often means
making a list of things you absolutely positively will NOT do. If you hate
cookie exchanges, JUST SAY NO! If you loathe caroling, DON'T DO IT. Guilt is
the one gift you don't need more of at this time of the year.
- Most importantly, be in the moment. Smell the season. Touch your
kids' cold noses. Savor the fresh snowfall. Don't assume there will ever be
another moment like this. Being present--it's the best gift of all.
Gwynne Spencer is the author of "What's Cooking in Children's Literature"
(Linworth Publishing), a compendium of snack recipes related to children's
She can be reached at:
PO Box 121
Mancos CO 81328